How a Parent Can Heal a Child’s ADHD

Parents whose children grapple with the symptoms that are labeled as ADHD, are, understandably, searching for the best ways to help their children overcome this.  This journey can be exhausting, overwhelming and costly in terms of time, money and emotion.   Parents often tell me that the different kinds of treatments they have tried, have brought some improvements, but not to the degree where the symptoms are truly reversed – which is what they dream about for their child. Traditional therapies available for ADHD, too often are missing one very simple but critical element which is that …

Kids of all ages, with ‘ADHD,’ absorb stress much more than other kids.

They are magnets for stress. Their stress dysregulates their nervous system.

Children cannot learn, pay attention, focus, respond calmly, behave appropriately, be healthy and feel happy when they are feeling stressed and have a dysregulated nervous system.

The higher their inner stress levels, the worse their ADHD symptoms become. And the worse the symptoms become, the higher their stress levels go. And as the stress increases the brain becomes more and more unable to do what it would normally do, which is to help the child learn easily, focus, pay attention, behave positively, feel good and be calm.

Any form of treatment that does not take these facts into account, will be highly unlikely to be effective and have sustainable positive results, because by ignoring the stress factor they are ‘putting the cart in front of the horse – and the result is that kids remain stuck with the problems.

I believe that traditional medicine has conditioned parents (and teachers) to think that ADHD is a ‘disorder.’ My studies and research and experience shows that ADHD is NOT a disorder, but rather it is a collection of symptoms created by high inner stress.

And when the inner stress is reduced and removed, the so-called ADHD ‘disorder’ goes away.

It may or may not surprise you when I say that if a child has ADHD, the place to start healing this is through making important changes in the parent-child relationship.

Being a parent whose child has the symptoms of ADHD can be stressful.  It is tough to watch your child struggle in the ways that they do.  What many parents don’t know (because the traditional practitioners don’t always tell them) is that your stress is highly contagious.

If a parent, or both parents, feel stressed, the child will be stressed too.   Neuroscience has shown us that what is happening inside the parent, will be happening inside the child.

The truth is that every moment you are with your children, you are changing their chemistry and their nervous system to match yours.

If you are anxious and worried, they will be too.

If you are joyful and excited, they will be too.

So, this being true, the place to start HEALING and reversing your child’s ADHD is by healing and reversing YOUR stress. 

And as you become calmer, your nervous system becomes more regulated and your children will do the same – they will feel calmer and their nervous system will become regulated.

THIS IS WHEN YOUR CHILD BEGINS TO HEAL THEIR ADHD.

This scientifically proven fact means that YOU are orchestrating the chemistry in your child’s brain. It becomes vitally important then that you know how to stimulate your child’s healthy chemistry and NOT the unhealthy stress chemistry. To do this you need to know how to parent your child – how to be with your child – how to connect with your child – in ways that will reduce stress and help your child’s brain.

Sound complicated? It’s not. It’s really so simple!

Start with this

Check how YOU score on these statements below.

1. I now understand that my stress is changing my child’s brain chemistry.
2. I can totally understand that how I speak, look, sound and behave with my child, when I am stressed, affects my child’s brain chemistry, in unhealthy ways
3. I am willing to acknowledge that my current stress level is too high.
4. I have the personal courage to confront why I stress the way I do.  (A clue: Did you see your own Mom and Dad doing this with?).
5. I really, really, want to reduce my stress level both for my own sake as well as to heal my child.

Be aware that if you want to work on healing your child’s ADHD you will need to score YES! on all of above.

 

THE NEXT STEP

You carve out time to learn exactly HOW to do this and how to develop a stress-less relationship with yourself and your children.

 

PLEASE KNOW

For REAL healing to happen in your child’s brain, any changes you make to your stress level, must be the kind of changes that are clearly visible to your children.   It must be the kind of changes that your child’s brain will interpret as … 

Something feels different about Mom/Dad
It feels good!
Mom and Dad are so calm these days
Dad is so present
They really listen to me
Mom often laughs
She seems so much happier
Dad isn’t fighting with me anymore
We discuss things calmly
They are SO relaxed and cool
Mom and Dad are such fun to be with
Mom and Dad are much happier with each other
Mom and Dad seem to be so proud of me!

When your child feels these changes in YOU – THEY will start to feel safe, their brain chemistry will go back into healthy balance, their nervous system will become calm. And only then will their brains be able to start healing their ADHD.

HEALING YOUR CHILD’S ADHD STARTS WITH YOU!

Would you like to learn more about this? Here are some powerful links for you to explore

ADHD is not a Useful Label

Heal Your Child’s Heart

The 10-Session Parenting That Heals Program

Saying Goodbye to ADHD