This can be Hard for Parents to Do

Hello Wonderful Parents

When it comes to parenting a child that has a dysregulated nervous system, this requires new and different parenting behaviors and skills.

And if you are a parent that has learned the parenting skills for regulating your child’s nervous system and are applying these parenting skills, you may notice that this is likely to draw the attention of others.

This is because healing your child’s nervous system does not look like what traditional parenting looks like.  It looks like the very opposite of what others would expect or believe you should be doing.

It seems like everyone around you and especially those closest to you, has an opinion…

About your child’s behavior

About your parenting style

About what they think is wrong.

Others may see the child as

• spoiled
• manipulative
• difficult
• lazy
• irresponsible

And they may believe:

• you don’t discipline them enough
• you are too soft
• you should set stronger, non-negotiable boundaries
• you should be giving the child more consequences

Learn how to drown out the voices and opinions of others.

Because if you listen, to every opinion, you will begin doubting yourself.

You will spend precious energy trying to explain yourself.

Trying to explain your child.

Trying to explain about nervous system dysregulation.

Trying to explain that the way you are parenting is actually helping your child heal.

The truth is…

Most people simply do not understand nervous system dysregulation.

And trying to make uninformed people understand something they have never learned

about can become exhausting, lonely and deeply frustrating. Especially when it involves

your child.

Because it hurts when people judge your child.

It hurts when family members don’t understand and think you are making a mistake.

It hurts when teachers, friends, strangers, or even your own spouse question what you

know to be true.

There comes a point when you must stop explaining.

Learn when to say with strength and confidence (not anger or resentment)

“I’ve got this, thank you.

I have learned what my child needs to heal.

This is what my child needs in order to heal.

If you truly want to understand more of what it is I am doing, I would be happy to share articles and videos with you.”

And then…

Leave it there.

Dear wonderful parents, please remember

Not everyone gets a vote about your parenting

And not everyone is entitled to an opinion about your child’s healing journey.

This is your child.

Your family.

Your path.

Trust yourself.

With much love and gratitude

P.S.  If you have questions about your child’s nervous system, you can: