How to HEAL your child’s defiant behavior



Being oppositional and being defiant is NOT a disorder. It is NOT a psychiatric or psychological problem. It is NOT a sign of a child having a personality or character defect; it is NOT a child that is mean-spirited! These behaviors are really important messengers. Think of it as the child’s way of telling you: ‘Mom, Dad, Teacher, something is going on inside of me that is causing me to behave this way. Please find it and fix it so that I can stop behaving this way. I don’t need you to drug me. I don’t need you to label me. I need you to discover what is triggering my defiant behavior, and then fix that – not fix me.’