Common Childhood Diagnoses Linked to the Nervous System

Would you be surprised if I told you that Defiance, Anxiety, Depression, Screen Addiction, Low Motivation, Social Anxiety Disorder, Sensory Processing Issues, Eating Disorders, Gut Struggles, Constipation, Eczema, Sleep Issues (to mention just a few) …

… all have the exact same root cause

Since my parenting That Heals protocol is all about treating the underlying root causes, this means then, that the treatment plan for healing any of these problems is identical.

Heal the root cause. And the problems no longer show up.

Exactly what is this root cause?

It is the condition of your child’s nervous system. Ideally, we want your children’s nervous system to be in a state of safety and calm. IF you have a child with any emotional, behavior, mood or physical symptoms, this tell us that your child’s nervous system is in a state of chronic stress, which has caused it to become dysregulated.

The symptoms you are seeing (no matter what they may be) is your child’s way of trying to tell you, ‘Hey, Mom/ Dad, my nervous system is in overload. Please help me regulate my nervous system’.
And the longer you delay treating this, the worse the symptoms will become. Heal this and the symptoms go away.

 

What happens when your child’s nervous system is in stress overload?

Your child is stuck in fight-or-flight or freeze mode. Or combinations of fight, flight and freeze.

Fight shows up as Defiance, anger, temper tantrums, anxiety

Flight shows up as Withdrawal, sadness, depression, non-communication, anxiety

Freeze shows up as anxiety, shutting down, afraid to try new things or interact with life.

If this happens your child is living life as a survivor instead of being able to feel good about themselves, behave positively, learn easily, and love life. All of which is only possible with a regulated nervous system!

Traditional practitioners will give your child a diagnosis and perhaps a script for medication. Perhaps they will suggest therapy (no thanks!).

They won’t tell you though that your child’s nervous system is in stress overload. Nor will they tell you that when you learn exactly how to resolve that, there will be no more symptoms and no more diagnosis.

That doesn’t mean every diagnosis is incorrect. But the diagnosis on its own doesn’t tell you why your child has these symptoms and how to heal it. What it does always tell us, is that the nervous system is overloaded and needs to be healed.

Dear parent, the answer is not to try to teach the child how to focus and pay attention, not to feel anxious, not to be addicted to screens, not to starve themselves, not to hurt themselves, not to be sad, not to be unmotivated…. these are not the problems. The real answer is for you to learn how to regulate your child’s nervous system.

No matter what you do to try to fix the child from the outside-in, it cannot work while the child has a nervous system that is overloaded by stress.

In fact, talking to your child about their problematic behaviors, has a really negative consequence. It makes your child feel that who they are is not O.K. And they start believing that, ‘I am not enough’.

This belief is confirmed for the child, by going to all the doctors and having all the tests and getting diagnoses and medications and mom and dad looking worried and anxious.

This horrible belief of not being good enough, causes the child more inner stress and further dysregulates the nervous system.

So please dear parent, don’t focus on fixing the behavior, or treating the symptoms, learn how to regulate your beloved child’s nervous system.

Once your child’s nervous system feels safe and is calm, the problems will reverse and be a thing of the past.

 

Your 3-Step Action Plan

1. You start by understanding that if your child has a dysregulated nervous system, it can only be because one, or both parents, also have a dysregulated nervous system. Neuroscience has shown us that whatever is happening in your nervous system, will be transferred to your child’s nervous system.

2. Learn how to regulate your own nervous system first. Learn how to become a model of joy and serenity and inspiration, rather than to show up with pressure, stress and anxiety.

3. Once you have achieved this, the next step is to learn a new way of communicating, and engaging with your child, in a way that does not unintentionally trigger stress in your child.

Finally, I would like to remind you that if you are reading this and it resonates with you, that will not be enough to help you heal your child.

 

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